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Gifts! If You Don’t Use Them, You’ll Lose Them!

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As we look around us, we can see a lot of preparation taking place, for the celebration of Christmas Day. Lots of gifts will be brought for family, friends, and for other people in our lives. Many of these gifts will be used, but some will be placed in the recycle pile or ‘stored’ for a later date. Why are some gifts used, recycled or stored? Does it depend on who has given the gift? Does it depend on, if the gift is needed? There are many answers to these questions, but one thing we can agree on is, some gifts will be used, recycled, or stored.

Christmas Gifts

Let’s apply this idea to our lives. We all have things which we are good at. We call them, our gifts, or talents. My two primary gifts are teaching and counselling. These two gifts have allowed me to learn a variety of different skills, which I have used in all areas of my life – personally and professionally. What would have happened, if I decided, I did not want to use these gifts any longer? I would lose the effectiveness of the skills.

In the Bible, we read the parable of a Master who called a meeting for three members of staff.  I am going to adapt the parable  for this context. He had been observing how well the members of his staff, had been working over a period of time, and He now decided that the time had come, for the staff to put into practice what they had learnt, under His training.  In one, He recognised five gifts, in another two and in the third person, one gift. He told them, they would be given time to develop their gifts, and He would be back, at a later date,  to hold an accountability meeting.

The one with five and the one with two gifts, drew up action plans, as to how they would use their gifts. Within a short period of time, they realised the skills they had, could be used in new ways and new settings. The more they used their gifts the more skills they realised they had. However, the one with the one gift, stored it – just like an unused Christmas present.

The Master returned and the accountability meeting took place. The one with the five gifts now recognised ten gifts; the one with the two, now had four gifts. The one with the one gift, brought it out of storage. This gift was taken away from him, and given to the one with the ten. If you don’t use it, you will lose it!

In 2016, I took my two gifts of teaching and counselling and explored what new skills I could develop. Now, when I am out meeting someone for the first time, and they ask me what I do, I have to pause and think how I will answer their question. Let me explain.

My two gifts became five and the five have now become at least ten. Besides teaching and counselling, I am now a lay minister preaching, and sharing God’s Word using social media;  I have an integral role in Gospel Creative Media; I have set up a You Tube channel Gospel News and Views; I have trained as a Master Coach specialising in the well-being of individuals as well as for employees in a business setting; I am a verifier for the London Healthy Workplace Charter working alongside the Greater London Authority (GLA) ; I work with Activia Training delivering soft skills and management and leadership courses; I am the author of two books – my latest one ‘The Use of Coaching and AfL as Tools for School Improvement‘ came out in December, and my third book, Say Yes To New Opportunities,  will be out in 2017; I am a television broadcaster and presenter working with Good News ; an inspirational motivational  speaker talking about my own personal experiences; and an expert on living with lupus following my live radio interview for an American radio station. These have all new skills been achieved, in less than a year, because I made the decision  I wanted to take back control of my life.

At the start of this year, I asked Father God to use my gifts to bring glory to Him. He has opened doors that have left me speechless, and in tears.  He can do the same for you, if you ask Him.

Why not ask Him now, to show to you, what your gifts are. Say a prayer of commitment that you want Him to use your gifts for His glory in 2017 and beyond. In the new year, I will be launching my new programme ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness’ which will help you to recognise what your gifts are, and how you can use them in all areas of your life, just as I have learnt to do this year .

Have a blessed week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.


Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  or visit my website: 


Celebrate Your Uniqueness!

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Another year will soon be ended. Another week has passed. Another day.

As you reflect on the last month what differences have taken place in your life – personally and professionally? Are you the same person you were at the start of the month or have you grown in one area or another? Have you had a difficult month, and are you hoping the month ahead will change your circumstances?

These last couple of months, have been one of the most challenging times, emotionally, that I can remember. They have been a time where I have had to look within to see how my past circumstances are affecting me, now in the present. They have been a time of tears. Tears of sadness but also tears of joys. As I have sought professional help, barriers which have been in place in my life, for decades, have finally been broken down. It has been a time of great change.

I have noticed that as I have changed positively, it has also had a positive impact in the lives of others, – both personally and professionally. Relationships which have been broken for a long time, have been mended, almost miraculously.

What has been the reason for my changes? I have learnt to appreciate myself. I have started to see myself the way God sees me, and not the way society sees me. I now see myself as special. I now know that I have been created just the way I needed to be, to make me, me. As I have processed what these words truly mean, they have changed me.

In the business world, they ask, “What is your unique selling point?” “What sets you apart from your competitors?” Let’s make it personal. “What are your unique qualities?” “What sets you apart from everybody else?”

The answer is simple, yet profound. Your life experiences and the way you have coped with them.  Let me illustrate. Two people could have had the same event, like being made redundant from a job they liked, with a short notice period. One could take the news positively. They now have the opportunity to pursue a new career; whilst the other person will be impacted in a negative way, by becoming depressed, and spend months at home with no clear direction in their life.



The 24th September 2016 was a special day for me. No it was not my birthday. It was a day when I returned to the same hotel and the same room that my healing had taken place in on the 24th May 2014. In May, I was a guest at a women’s retreat. Now in September, I was the guest speaker at the women’s retreat. At this event, I launched my new programme called ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness.’

I am special. Not because of things that have happened in my life, but because of my very existence. The fact I am alive. Let me explain. A newborn girl is born with between one and two million immature eggs. It is estimated that between 40 million to 1.2 billion sperm are released. The right egg, with the right sperm, needed to fuse together at fertilisation to give me the right combination of DNA to make me.  As it says in Psalms 139:14, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”

Ruth is fearfully and wonderfully made.

(Insert your name) is fearfully and wonderfully made.

As we learn to celebrate our uniqueness and not try to be like someone else, it will start to heal our pain.

This is why these last few months have been special. I am on a journey. As I travel, I am impacting the lives of others, because I am sharing my transformation with them. I do not have to say what changes are taking place in my life, others are asking me questions because they can see the changes for themselves. I am now helping them to see that they too can be healed of their pain, if they are willing to take the necessary steps. It has not been easy for me, but the experiences have been worthwhile. Why?


As I shared my presentation, I saw lives change in a miraculous way and deep emotional healing take place, not just with one person but with many. This healing can happen to you also, if you take part in one of these sessions. As I work with my clients, I have seen broken relationships mended and people making changes to have better quality lives.

Celebrate Your Uniqueness!



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