Celebrate Your Uniqueness

Identity: Follow Your Dreams

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I have been reflecting on my life experiences in preparation for the launch of my new book, ‘Say Yes To New Opportunities’. This has been very hard for me, as I have had to revisit the day that I had my emotional meltdown at work, as an experienced senior leader. For so long, I have pushed the memories of what happened that day, deep within. I always talked about what happened, as facts but did not connect with the details, emotionally. This has now changed, due to the day my publishers asked for more details with a series of questions they wanted me to answer.

As I had my session with my therapist, we explored how I was really feeling. One word came to the surface – Identity. I also realised why I wanted to forget the pain of the day. I realised that it is easier to deal with physical pain than emotional pain.

What do you think?

When you go through physical pain and illnesses you get support from others. You do not get told, “Get over it, or words to that effect.”

When you have hidden disabilities and illnesses where do you go for help? For many, there is no place to go. There is no one to really talk to and let them know how you really feel. So, what do you do? You bury your emotions, put a smile on your face and tell everyone, including yourself, that you are fine.

No wonder, depression kicks in!

What is even worst, for most of the time you are coping with depression and you do not even know this is what is wrong with you. You know you do not feel right, but you cannot put a name to it.

Does anything that I have written, resonate with you? If the answer is yes, read on.

In the midst of my pain, I started to listen to personal development videos. The more I listened the more I connected to the speakers and realised that I was focussing on the wrong things. I needed to focus on me. I needed to learn to start to follow my dreams again. 

This may seem a selfish thing to do, but let me explain. If you do not look after yourself, then how can you look after others?

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One powerful exercise I was encouraged to do was to write sentences about who I am.  I took 30 minutes of me time. As I wrote, I started to cry as inner healing came. In the end, I wrote 40, I am sentences. I am not going to share all, just a few but instead of using the word I, I am going to use the word you.

  1. You are special and need to celebrate your uniqueness.
  2. You are loved, not just by your family and friends but by many people whom you have met, directly or indirectly, this last year after you made the decision to take back control of your life and have a better work-life balance.
  3. You are 100% committed to anything you get involved in. You show up 10/10 and help others to become the best version of themselves.
  4. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and it is a miracle that you are alive.
  5. You are unique, with specific gifts and talents and experiences that you can use to impact the lives of others in a powerful way, because you can fully empathise with their pain and challenges.
  6. You are a good role model to the young people in your life.
  7. You are bigger, better, bolder and brighter than you ever thought possible. The more you learn the more you expand your circle of influence. There is no limit to the you that you can become. The only limit is what you put on yourself.


How are you feeling after making these affirmations about yourself?

No matter what you do for a living, you know how hard it can be to overcome personal and professional problems. Why not get the help you need from someone who has been there?

I have developed a new course called, ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness’ to help you on this journey back to wholeness. A course where you can discover your true identity and write your own I am … list.

Would you like to Celebrate Your Uniqueness and FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS?

Sign up for more details here.

Gifts! If You Don’t Use Them, You’ll Lose Them!

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As we look around us, we can see a lot of preparation taking place, for the celebration of Christmas Day. Lots of gifts will be brought for family, friends, and for other people in our lives. Many of these gifts will be used, but some will be placed in the recycle pile or ‘stored’ for a later date. Why are some gifts used, recycled or stored? Does it depend on who has given the gift? Does it depend on, if the gift is needed? There are many answers to these questions, but one thing we can agree on is, some gifts will be used, recycled, or stored.

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Let’s apply this idea to our lives. We all have things which we are good at. We call them, our gifts, or talents. My two primary gifts are teaching and counselling. These two gifts have allowed me to learn a variety of different skills, which I have used in all areas of my life – personally and professionally. What would have happened, if I decided, I did not want to use these gifts any longer? I would lose the effectiveness of the skills.

In the Bible, we read the parable of a Master who called a meeting for three members of staff.  I am going to adapt the parable  for this context. He had been observing how well the members of his staff, had been working over a period of time, and He now decided that the time had come, for the staff to put into practice what they had learnt, under His training.  In one, He recognised five gifts, in another two and in the third person, one gift. He told them, they would be given time to develop their gifts, and He would be back, at a later date,  to hold an accountability meeting.

The one with five and the one with two gifts, drew up action plans, as to how they would use their gifts. Within a short period of time, they realised the skills they had, could be used in new ways and new settings. The more they used their gifts the more skills they realised they had. However, the one with the one gift, stored it – just like an unused Christmas present.

The Master returned and the accountability meeting took place. The one with the five gifts now recognised ten gifts; the one with the two, now had four gifts. The one with the one gift, brought it out of storage. This gift was taken away from him, and given to the one with the ten. If you don’t use it, you will lose it!

In 2016, I took my two gifts of teaching and counselling and explored what new skills I could develop. Now, when I am out meeting someone for the first time, and they ask me what I do, I have to pause and think how I will answer their question. Let me explain.

My two gifts became five and the five have now become at least ten. Besides teaching and counselling, I am now a lay minister preaching, and sharing God’s Word using social media;  I have an integral role in Gospel Creative Media; I have set up a You Tube channel Gospel News and Views; I have trained as a Master Coach specialising in the well-being of individuals as well as for employees in a business setting; I am a verifier for the London Healthy Workplace Charter working alongside the Greater London Authority (GLA) ; I work with Activia Training delivering soft skills and management and leadership courses; I am the author of two books – my latest one ‘The Use of Coaching and AfL as Tools for School Improvement‘ came out in December, and my third book, Say Yes To New Opportunities,  will be out in 2017; I am a television broadcaster and presenter working with Good News Britain.com ; an inspirational motivational  speaker talking about my own personal experiences; and an expert on living with lupus following my live radio interview for an American radio station. These have all new skills been achieved, in less than a year, because I made the decision  I wanted to take back control of my life.

At the start of this year, I asked Father God to use my gifts to bring glory to Him. He has opened doors that have left me speechless, and in tears.  He can do the same for you, if you ask Him.

Why not ask Him now, to show to you, what your gifts are. Say a prayer of commitment that you want Him to use your gifts for His glory in 2017 and beyond. In the new year, I will be launching my new programme ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness’ which will help you to recognise what your gifts are, and how you can use them in all areas of your life, just as I have learnt to do this year .

Have a blessed week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.


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Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/