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Identity: Follow Your Dreams

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I have been reflecting on my life experiences in preparation for the launch of my new book, ‘Say Yes To New Opportunities’. This has been very hard for me, as I have had to revisit the day that I had my emotional meltdown at work, as an experienced senior leader. For so long, I have pushed the memories of what happened that day, deep within. I always talked about what happened, as facts but did not connect with the details, emotionally. This has now changed, due to the day my publishers asked for more details with a series of questions they wanted me to answer.

As I had my session with my therapist, we explored how I was really feeling. One word came to the surface – Identity. I also realised why I wanted to forget the pain of the day. I realised that it is easier to deal with physical pain than emotional pain.

What do you think?

When you go through physical pain and illnesses you get support from others. You do not get told, “Get over it, or words to that effect.”

When you have hidden disabilities and illnesses where do you go for help? For many, there is no place to go. There is no one to really talk to and let them know how you really feel. So, what do you do? You bury your emotions, put a smile on your face and tell everyone, including yourself, that you are fine.

No wonder, depression kicks in!

What is even worst, for most of the time you are coping with depression and you do not even know this is what is wrong with you. You know you do not feel right, but you cannot put a name to it.

Does anything that I have written, resonate with you? If the answer is yes, read on.

In the midst of my pain, I started to listen to personal development videos. The more I listened the more I connected to the speakers and realised that I was focussing on the wrong things. I needed to focus on me. I needed to learn to start to follow my dreams again. 

This may seem a selfish thing to do, but let me explain. If you do not look after yourself, then how can you look after others?

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One powerful exercise I was encouraged to do was to write sentences about who I am.  I took 30 minutes of me time. As I wrote, I started to cry as inner healing came. In the end, I wrote 40, I am sentences. I am not going to share all, just a few but instead of using the word I, I am going to use the word you.

  1. You are special and need to celebrate your uniqueness.
  2. You are loved, not just by your family and friends but by many people whom you have met, directly or indirectly, this last year after you made the decision to take back control of your life and have a better work-life balance.
  3. You are 100% committed to anything you get involved in. You show up 10/10 and help others to become the best version of themselves.
  4. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and it is a miracle that you are alive.
  5. You are unique, with specific gifts and talents and experiences that you can use to impact the lives of others in a powerful way, because you can fully empathise with their pain and challenges.
  6. You are a good role model to the young people in your life.
  7. You are bigger, better, bolder and brighter than you ever thought possible. The more you learn the more you expand your circle of influence. There is no limit to the you that you can become. The only limit is what you put on yourself.

 

How are you feeling after making these affirmations about yourself?

No matter what you do for a living, you know how hard it can be to overcome personal and professional problems. Why not get the help you need from someone who has been there?

I have developed a new course called, ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness’ to help you on this journey back to wholeness. A course where you can discover your true identity and write your own I am … list.

Would you like to Celebrate Your Uniqueness and FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS?

Sign up for more details here.

Gifts! If You Don’t Use Them, You’ll Lose Them!

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As we look around us, we can see a lot of preparation taking place, for the celebration of Christmas Day. Lots of gifts will be brought for family, friends, and for other people in our lives. Many of these gifts will be used, but some will be placed in the recycle pile or ‘stored’ for a later date. Why are some gifts used, recycled or stored? Does it depend on who has given the gift? Does it depend on, if the gift is needed? There are many answers to these questions, but one thing we can agree on is, some gifts will be used, recycled, or stored.

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Let’s apply this idea to our lives. We all have things which we are good at. We call them, our gifts, or talents. My two primary gifts are teaching and counselling. These two gifts have allowed me to learn a variety of different skills, which I have used in all areas of my life – personally and professionally. What would have happened, if I decided, I did not want to use these gifts any longer? I would lose the effectiveness of the skills.

In the Bible, we read the parable of a Master who called a meeting for three members of staff.  I am going to adapt the parable  for this context. He had been observing how well the members of his staff, had been working over a period of time, and He now decided that the time had come, for the staff to put into practice what they had learnt, under His training.  In one, He recognised five gifts, in another two and in the third person, one gift. He told them, they would be given time to develop their gifts, and He would be back, at a later date,  to hold an accountability meeting.

The one with five and the one with two gifts, drew up action plans, as to how they would use their gifts. Within a short period of time, they realised the skills they had, could be used in new ways and new settings. The more they used their gifts the more skills they realised they had. However, the one with the one gift, stored it – just like an unused Christmas present.

The Master returned and the accountability meeting took place. The one with the five gifts now recognised ten gifts; the one with the two, now had four gifts. The one with the one gift, brought it out of storage. This gift was taken away from him, and given to the one with the ten. If you don’t use it, you will lose it!

In 2016, I took my two gifts of teaching and counselling and explored what new skills I could develop. Now, when I am out meeting someone for the first time, and they ask me what I do, I have to pause and think how I will answer their question. Let me explain.

My two gifts became five and the five have now become at least ten. Besides teaching and counselling, I am now a lay minister preaching, and sharing God’s Word using social media;  I have an integral role in Gospel Creative Media; I have set up a You Tube channel Gospel News and Views; I have trained as a Master Coach specialising in the well-being of individuals as well as for employees in a business setting; I am a verifier for the London Healthy Workplace Charter working alongside the Greater London Authority (GLA) ; I work with Activia Training delivering soft skills and management and leadership courses; I am the author of two books – my latest one ‘The Use of Coaching and AfL as Tools for School Improvement‘ came out in December, and my third book, Say Yes To New Opportunities,  will be out in 2017; I am a television broadcaster and presenter working with Good News Britain.com ; an inspirational motivational  speaker talking about my own personal experiences; and an expert on living with lupus following my live radio interview for an American radio station. These have all new skills been achieved, in less than a year, because I made the decision  I wanted to take back control of my life.

At the start of this year, I asked Father God to use my gifts to bring glory to Him. He has opened doors that have left me speechless, and in tears.  He can do the same for you, if you ask Him.

Why not ask Him now, to show to you, what your gifts are. Say a prayer of commitment that you want Him to use your gifts for His glory in 2017 and beyond. In the new year, I will be launching my new programme ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness’ which will help you to recognise what your gifts are, and how you can use them in all areas of your life, just as I have learnt to do this year .

Have a blessed week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/ 

 

Celebrate Your Uniqueness!

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Another year will soon be ended. Another week has passed. Another day.

As you reflect on the last month what differences have taken place in your life – personally and professionally? Are you the same person you were at the start of the month or have you grown in one area or another? Have you had a difficult month, and are you hoping the month ahead will change your circumstances?

These last couple of months, have been one of the most challenging times, emotionally, that I can remember. They have been a time where I have had to look within to see how my past circumstances are affecting me, now in the present. They have been a time of tears. Tears of sadness but also tears of joys. As I have sought professional help, barriers which have been in place in my life, for decades, have finally been broken down. It has been a time of great change.

I have noticed that as I have changed positively, it has also had a positive impact in the lives of others, – both personally and professionally. Relationships which have been broken for a long time, have been mended, almost miraculously.

What has been the reason for my changes? I have learnt to appreciate myself. I have started to see myself the way God sees me, and not the way society sees me. I now see myself as special. I now know that I have been created just the way I needed to be, to make me, me. As I have processed what these words truly mean, they have changed me.

In the business world, they ask, “What is your unique selling point?” “What sets you apart from your competitors?” Let’s make it personal. “What are your unique qualities?” “What sets you apart from everybody else?”

The answer is simple, yet profound. Your life experiences and the way you have coped with them.  Let me illustrate. Two people could have had the same event, like being made redundant from a job they liked, with a short notice period. One could take the news positively. They now have the opportunity to pursue a new career; whilst the other person will be impacted in a negative way, by becoming depressed, and spend months at home with no clear direction in their life.

 

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The 24th September 2016 was a special day for me. No it was not my birthday. It was a day when I returned to the same hotel and the same room that my healing had taken place in on the 24th May 2014. In May, I was a guest at a women’s retreat. Now in September, I was the guest speaker at the women’s retreat. At this event, I launched my new programme called ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness.’

I am special. Not because of things that have happened in my life, but because of my very existence. The fact I am alive. Let me explain. A newborn girl is born with between one and two million immature eggs. It is estimated that between 40 million to 1.2 billion sperm are released. The right egg, with the right sperm, needed to fuse together at fertilisation to give me the right combination of DNA to make me.  As it says in Psalms 139:14, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”

Ruth is fearfully and wonderfully made.

(Insert your name) is fearfully and wonderfully made.

As we learn to celebrate our uniqueness and not try to be like someone else, it will start to heal our pain.

This is why these last few months have been special. I am on a journey. As I travel, I am impacting the lives of others, because I am sharing my transformation with them. I do not have to say what changes are taking place in my life, others are asking me questions because they can see the changes for themselves. I am now helping them to see that they too can be healed of their pain, if they are willing to take the necessary steps. It has not been easy for me, but the experiences have been worthwhile. Why?

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As I shared my presentation, I saw lives change in a miraculous way and deep emotional healing take place, not just with one person but with many. This healing can happen to you also, if you take part in one of these sessions. As I work with my clients, I have seen broken relationships mended and people making changes to have better quality lives.

Celebrate Your Uniqueness!

Ruth

 

Are you on your own journey and would like to talk with someone who has walked a similar path? Get in touch and book a complimentary strategy session. Together, we can explore practical steps, you can take, for your own transformational story.

Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/  

 

Hackney Central Library Seminar – Five Steps to Overcoming Challenges

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Ruth has just confirmed that she will be running a series of free seminars at the Hackney Central Library!

Everyone has tough and challenging experiences in their life and Ruth has designed the ‘Five Steps to Overcoming Challenges’ seminars to help you to focus on how to move forward and constantly improve – even when times are tough! Ruth speaks from personal experience, having been left unable to walk due to Lupus in 2014. She draws on her own experiences to support others through both personal and professional challenges.

Ruth focuses on five key steps throughout her seminars, the five STEPS are:

Start – review and decide where you want to be and set about achieving it
Team – surround yourself with a supportive team
Emotions – how do you feel about what you’re going through?
Positivity – do something positive towards your goal
Success – what would success look like for you?

 

Sessions will be as follows:

Introductory Sessions – Wednesday 13th and 20th  January

Personal Development Sessions – Wednesday 10th and 24th Feb

– Wednesday 9th and 23rd March

 

The Hackney Central Library is located at:

1 Reading Lane

Hackney

London

E8 1GQ

 

If you would like to work on overcoming your challenges, either personal or professional, we hope to see you at the Hackney Central Library in the New Year!

 

The Story Behind Listening For God’s Voice

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listening-to-your-voice-book-listening-for-gods-voiceRuth Pearson is the founder of Listening to Your Voice, a personal, career and educational development consultancy. Ruth began her career working in education, eventually taking a senior leadership position within a school. More recently she has become qualified as a Motivational Maps practitioner for both adults and children. Ruth uses a mixture of her personal and professional experiences and her training as the basis of her motivational lectures and seminars.

Ruth has overcome many challenges in her own life and this forms the basis of some of her seminars and lectures. One of the challenges that Ruth has had to overcome is chronic illness which left her unable to walk. Her first book, Listening for God’s Voice, tells the story of how she overcame this challenge.

Ruth was attending a retreat hosted by Gladys Famoriyo Ministries. The previous evening Ruth had been discharged from hospital following her second admission that year following a lupus flare-up.

Ruth takes up the story:

“Despite the pain that I was in I wanted to attend because I had made a promise to Gladys, my writing coach, that I would share three of my devotions with the ladies attending the retreat, as gifts. That night the first one shared was entitled ‘Listening to Your Voice‘ which was about having better communication and relationships with people that we meet. The next day we had two other presentations one entitled ‘Forgiveness as Healing’ and ‘Will the Real Me Stand Up’ after which I shared my second devotion, ‘Be a Good Witness.’

The spirit of the Lord came upon me literally on the evening of the 24th May 2014. We were having a powerful praise and worship session and we could feel God’s presence filling the room. It was awesome to feel Him so near. The women were singing the song’ ‘There’s no one, There’s no one like Jesus’ and as they sang Joyce came to take my hand to lead me into the middle of the circle. She had to hold my hand tightly as I was unable to walk unaided. She positioned me into a position of praise and then preceded to touch my head and then my hips. I became very emotional and knelt down on the floor.

There, I cried and released years of emotional pain. Further prayers were said and now Father God speaks with Sharon Platt-McDonald to tell her that she must command me to rise up and walk. She tapped me on the shoulder and I opened my eyes and was assisted to my feet.

Imagine our delight as we realised that a miracle had just taken place, before the very eyes of the people who were in the room. I was greeted, “You who are highly favoured! The Lord is with you.”

The following day I shared my final devotional ‘Refreshed and Restored’. As I shared, questions were asked as to when I had written these devotions as they were about events that took place with me personally that weekend.

It was then that I realised that Father God had spoken with me as I was home recovering. I was encouraged that I must continue listening to Him as He was communicating with me in a special way. He wanted me to know that I was chosen by Him and I was special. In the months that followed, I continued writing and decided that I wanted to publish my first book.

This devotional came about as I was trying to find answers whilst I recovered from one of the worst flare-ups of my lupus. Yet, when I looked around myself, I discovered that there were many people who were going through one difficulty or another. I had stopped listening to God. However, I found that as I reconnected to Him, and personally paused to listen to Him, He gave me the strength to face another day.

I now needed a publisher. As I discussed with my son, an email arrived in my inbox from Harper Collins Christian Publishing, saying “Hello. You have reached an inbox that is not monitored. Can we help you?” (Dated 30 July 2014). This again was an answer to prayer and showed me that Father God was listening to my request. I replied and was put in touch with WestBow Press who became my publishers. My new book is entitled, ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’.”

You can find out more about the story behind Listening for Gods Voice on Ruth’s book blog. Ruth is now writing her second book which combines her personal experiences with the motivational training and consultancy she is now doing. This book is due to be published in 2016.